I haven‘t posted on the blog for more than 3 months. There are a lot of reason for that. Reasons, not excuses.
I read somewhere that if you are a blogger you shouldn’t publish negative posts or complain about things or explain why you don’t publish. People obviously don’t want to read negative things.
But life is not always “perfect” and as this is my personal blog space I have the freedom to share my thoughts and reasons for not posting (positive or negative).
So which are the main reasons for not posting on the blog regularly?
- I have a full-time corporate job
- I have a child
I compare the North-American routine of a working parent with concrete because it doesn’t change and it is all the same for weeks, months, years… It literally squeezes every last drop of your physical and mental energy. Maybe North-Americans are used to it as they probably grew up with it too.
But I didn’t. And I am not used to it. I am used to things changing all the time, I am used to no routine at all.
I wake up at 5:30 am and leave the house at 7:00 am. I come back home from work at 6:00 pm and together with my husband we start the daily house chorus which we just can’t ignore – preparing dinner, washing the dishes, cooking and preparing the food for the next day.
Bringing food and snack to work and for the day care is one of the things that I hate so much about the North-American culture. I never ever had to do that when living in Europe and for me that is such a time consuming and annoying burden.
After all choruses are done we have little time to spend with our 4-year-old daughter before she goes to bed. After that it is already 8:30 – 9:00 pm and if I want to sleep 8 hours I have to go to bed at 9:30 pm. Which never happens and will never ever happen. I need some alone me time to watch a movie, to read a book or just to sit on the sofa and do nothing.
By that time I am already too exhausted and I don’t have any energy or desire to sit down in front of the computer to write posts, edit pictures and publish posts. I can’t even think. The only thing I can do during that part of the day is to sit on the sofa and watch a mindless show or a movie.
We spend the weekends with our daughter (she goes to dance classes and swimming lessons). We also try to go outside for a walk or to the park, to meet with our friends and to do a bunch of other house chorus, which are too time-consuming for a week day.
So I ask myself very often how do other bloggers post so frequently. Maybe they are single or don’t have kids? Maybe they don’t work or their work hours are less or more flexible? Maybe they are stay at home moms? I don’t have answers to these questions but I am sure that no one is perfect and everyone has a part of life that stays in the background. In my case it is my blog.
My blog is a hobby which distracts me from the concrete North-American routine and I enjoy keeping it running. My blog is not a business and I don’t have any plans for the near future to change that. Not only my blog doesn’t bring me any money but it costs me money to keep it running.
The fact that I don’t publish posts doesn’t mean that I stopped writing posts. I have many posts which are waiting to be finished and made perfect for publishing. As my blog is bi-lingual I also always want to publish in both languages – English and Bulgarian and having the post just in one of the languages delays its posting.
And sometimes I simply don’t have any inspiration to write new posts or to finish old ones.
So how are you doing this, bloggers? When do you find the time to create and publish posts every other day and to keep active presence on social media as well?